I’m writing tonight in the hope that I’ll be able to expel whatever it is that is tormenting me. I feel so unsettled, I don’t know what to do with myself but I’m too tired to do anything anyway. I haven’t left the house for 10 days except to call at the local pub for a couple of hours on Friday and nip into the shop. I managed to drag my bones into the bath this afternoon after spending hours psyching myself up and not having washed, brushed my hair or changed my pyjamas since Friday. This is the reality of how my weeks are spent, grubby and smelly but not caring enough to do anything about it. If I do actually go out I can make myself so presentable that no-one would know the ‘real’ me. Seems like I’m just lazy and can’t be bothered getting ready unless it’s for something I like? I wish that were the case. Many many times I want to do things but the thought of showering, drying my hair and choosing clothes to wear causes me so much panic that I simply can’t do it. Even if I do get to the point of trying to choose clothes it’s likely I’ll end up in tears as nothing fits/looks right/doesn’t look stupid. Add this to the fear of being in busy places, having to speak to people I don’t know and generalised anxiety about everything else actually getting out of the house is a pretty massive achievement, even if it is only once a week.
I think I might be feeling a bit more delicate recently as I’ve started to decrease my antipsychotic medication as I’m sick to death of being such a fat cow. This could be a tricky period, the last couple of times I tried to reduce my dose I ended up in hospital after attempting suicide and I know hubby is anxious about it. These tablets have completely screwed up my metabolism and in the 28 months that I’ve been taking them I’ve put on over 2 stone in weight. That might not sound like loads but considering I’m only 5’’ 2’ and I was 8 stone before taking them it’s a hefty amount and I feel like a blob. I’ve tried low calorie diets and exercising but nothing works because the meds change the way the body metabolises and stores fat which basically means it’s impossible to lose weight. I’ve had to start taking Metformin which is usually given to overweight diabetic people but all that has done is stopped the scales from creeping up any further. So I’ve decided enough is enough and I’m coming off the bloody things. I reckon I can deal with a few hallucinations here and there if I’m back to my post-med weight. Obviously I’ll still be taking the Lithium, antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds so it’s not like I’m going to be flying completely solo.
So at the same time as tapering off the devil drug I’m starting to count my calories again and be more mindful about what I eat. Unfortunately because I’m only short I only have a small daily calorie allowance but although I’ll be hungry I should lose at least 2lbs a week. I know it’s worked for me in the past anyway so I’m hoping and praying that once the antipsychotics are completely out of my system I can get back to being me or, to be exact, less of me.
The past has been concerning me again and I can’t help but be paranoid. The ‘blast from the past’ I’ve spoken out before is now my friend on Facebook and we follow each other on Instagram. I’m starting to think that maybe this isn’t such a good idea. They said that they were happy to keep in contact but I haven’t heard anything from them for weeks and I don’t feel like it’s my place to get back in touch, I don’t want them to think I’m harassing them. I know last time (a couple of years ago) I tried to write to them my message was shared around all of their friends who found it hilarious and discussed it all over Facebook including one mocking the fact that I self-harmed. To be honest if I thought that anything like this was happening now it would break me completely and utterly. I try to be a good person, I made some shitty mistakes when I was younger and reckless (thanks undiagnosed bipolar for that) but I have never set out to hurt anyone intentionally. I suppose I’m just overly concerned because I’m insecure and what people think really does matter to me.
God I could really do with a fag and a good cry right now. I’m having to make do with an alcohol free beer. I was so tempted to go to the pub this afternoon and just drink to make all of this go away but I couldn’t be bothered to get showered and by the time I’d finally had a bath hubby was home and there was no way he was going to let me go. Sometimes I feel so alone even when other people are around. My mind is so full of stuff it almost doesn’t have any room to deal with anyone else. It’s lonely and it’s cold and somehow it feels good to be left to manage my thoughts on my own.